We all have pronouns. In our daily interactions, we use these important terms to help our conversations flow smoothly. Pronouns are more than just grammatical tools; they wield profound significance in our daily interactions, shaping how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us.
So, why exactly do pronouns matter and why should we respect them?
Respecting Identity: Pronouns are a cornerstone of respect. When we use someone's correct pronouns, we affirm their gender identity—their deeply personal understanding of themselves. When we use someone's correct pronouns, we are saying, "I see you, and I respect you."
Promoting Inclusion: Misgendering can be deeply hurtful and isolating. Using the correct pronouns fosters inclusivity and cultivates a safe environment where everyone feels valued. This is particularly crucial for transgender, genderqueer, and nonbinary folx, where misgendering can trigger gender dysphoria and may create an unsafe environment for them.
Normalizing Conversations: Openly discussing and using pronouns helps dismantle stereotypes and fosters a safe and inclusive environment where discussions about gender identity are normalized. This openness encourages everyone to express their true selves authentically.
Practice: While some may fear making mistakes with pronouns, it's okay to slip up occasionally. What matters most is showing respect. If you make an error, simply apologize, correct yourself, and move on. If it keeps happening with one or a few people, find someone safe to practice with and focus on mentally using the correct pronouns when you think of them.
Tips for Pronoun Respect:
- Introduce Yourself with Pronouns: When introducing yourself, include your pronouns. For instance, "Hi, I'm SJ, and I use he/they pronouns."
- Ask for Pronouns: If you're unsure of someone's pronouns, politely ask! This shows that you care about using the right term and shows you respect them. "What pronouns should I use when referring to you?"
- Normalize Pronoun Sharing: Encourage others to share their pronouns by including yours in your email signature, social media bios, or anywhere you write your name or introduce yourself.
- Never Assume Pronouns: You can not tell someone's pronouns just by looking at them. There is a wide variety of pronouns people may use, which continues to expand. These include She/Her/Hers, They/Them/Theirs, He/Him/His, Ze/Hir/Hirs, Xe/Xem/Xyrs, and Ve/Ver/Vers. Some folx also use a combination of these pronouns.
